Adult Men I Could Really Use Your Advice

Forgive my LONG story but I really need advice. I'm 38 years old and my man Scott is 31. For the past 13 years, I've been in a relationship with Scott. He was 18 and I was 25 when we got together. Prior, to meeting Scott, I was in a relationship with my high school sweetheart Edward with whom I have a son. My son is 21 years old now. Edward cheated on me left and right. I dealt with it for years until I met and fell in love with Scott. When Edward left, Scott moved in. Scott and I had 3 daughters together, born in 1999, 2001 and 2004. He also helped me raise my son when his father left. Between giving birth to Scott's kids, I worked my butt off, cleaned the house, cooked for him etc. I wanted to Scott to attend college and get an education, which he accomplished and I'm proud of him. Ever since then, Scott had an amazing job making lots of money. Things got rocky in 2007 when Scott proposed to me and then cowardly changed his mind a few weeks later. It broke my heart when he did that so we broke up for two months though we still lived together and raised our kids. Scott wanted to see other women and "test the waters". It hurt me but I agreed to it. That summer of 2007 while Scott and I were "broken up", I started sleeping with my son's best friend Jason(he was 18 and legal at the time). I fell for Jason and we dated throughout summer 2007. I stopped seeing Jason when I viewed his myspace page and saw all the young girls he was flirting with. I was mad at Jason then but in hindsight, he probably started seeing these other girls because he knew that I would eventually reconcile with Scott. So, by the end of the summer, Scott and I were back together. He didn't propose to me again but we stayed together. However, this January, I met a 22 year old bisexual girl named Regina. In the back of my mind, I was always curious about women I just never acted on it. Regina started having threesomes with me and Scott. That was always a fantasy Scott had like many other men at there....two women in the bed with him. But Regina and I fell for each other. Sometimes we made love without Scott being there. I was able to confide in her about how Scott hurt me and we became emotionally attached. But 2 months ago, Scott really started proving to me that he can be the man I want him to be. He started being more attentive and listening to me more and I got reminded of how much I really love this man. So last week, I told Regina that I just want to be friends and it broke her heart. I feel terrible for hurting her. It's been a week and she won't even speak to me. Its sad because I really cared about this girl. Scott appears happy that she's gone because he admitted that he was scared she would take me from him. Which was NEVER true because my heart belongs to Scott. Now that he's showing me all the things I want and need from him, do you think I should pressure him to marry me? Or does it sound like he might eventually do that? I'm damn near 40 years old, I'm ready to be happy and settled. I don't want to keep breaking other people's hearts behind Scott. Advice?

I had to make the same decision a few months ago. I've always wanted a four poster bed. I love the look and what I really wanted was for my room to look nice so thats what I went with. It really depends on how much money your willing to spend though. The wooden ones are really nice and last a lifetime but they can be really expensive. I see you want a metal one though.. I haven't seen those before. I got a bed from ikea that was nice and it's a great price. Heres the link. http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/products/S89861543

Where on earth did you get that idea from. Intact penis gives more control It is Circumcised guys have the problem. If you can last for 20 strokes that suggests you can get in O.K. Young guys are not really supposed to last much more than that. Back in old tribal days youngster would get head beaten in by husband. You can last longer with Experience. So you just want practice, but circumcision ain't gonna help any. +

I would say 5 definitely! Guys can get off so much easier than chicks&it hurts so much more for us during our first time. If your being selfish and not listening or asking what she likes thats not satisfying her, it says a lot about your personality. Guys often think its size/lasting long enough, but honestly as long as you can work with whatcha got & make sure she finishes too we dont mind :) Please answer! TEN SHORT&EASY POINTS http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20101216064756AA1LO1z

I'm not an expert to tell you this but there are a lot of factors why you don't last longer in bed. Among the factors to consider could be your age, lifestyle. Smoking and drinking greatly affects your sexual potency and how you perform in bed. Excitement also may play a role. When one is excited, chances are he might ejaculate prematurely. But there is an article I have read that may work out for you. It really is inexpensive. If you are familiar with 'Kegel Exercise', then it's time for you to do it. It is actually an exercise done by females, but from what I've read, it would also work out for men too. It involves the location and strengthening of the 'pubococcygeus muscle' in order to achieve an increase in sexual gratification. One way of doing Kegel exercise for male is...while urinating, try to pause urinating midstream. Pause for 3 seconds or so. Repeat the process until you have urinated. For more info., you can also click on the link below.

I have 3 boys... 6 3 & 2 they all get into bed with us in the morning its lovely because we all get to chat and muck about, its only natural that they are inquisitive.... just explain to him that asking to see other peoples bits is not right, dont take away his time away from you in the morning.

you just need to pace yourself...with teasing and go slowly really building it up.and then at the end you should last a while.

Hi Star, this is a problem that maybe can start to be sorted outside the bedroom. Sit him down in private, and explain exactly how you feel about the situation, and how you hope he can improve his performance. The book or video the Joy of Sex may well be able to help here, guiding him through bedroom techniques, and certainly foreplay, which hopefully ( well for you anyways) will help him realise what is needed. Maybe trying telling him what you need in the foreplay respect, and guiding him, in fancy teaching him where and how to touch you, and what turns you on ( and off ) Please remember that everybody has to learn, and it seems you have got an almost blank canvas to work on in teaching him. Possibly before you start, masturbating him may help, as then he will have shot his load, and, hopefully should last a bit longer, or you taking control from on top, where you control the rate and rhythm of him entering into you. Another way, when you feel he is close to ejaculation, is to slow or stop the rhythm, and grip him round the base of the shaft of his penis, gently squeezing so as to reduce the rise of the sperm, and starting off slowly. www.girlsteachguys.com may also be able to offer some advice, as may www.ehow.com/and go into the dating and sex section which should help give you some guidance. Good luck, Mike t.

Look, if he cant go for long, then go ina nd out, halfway there have him stop and try oral on you, go again and stop when he gets close and fingers you, FOREPLAY is important and techniques used during foreplay can be used during sex. Even pulling his dick out and givng it a good pinch or smack will reduce his arousal and make him last longer Give him oral sex first so he loses the first easy one and after that he should be able to last a good while. GOOGLE is your friend, talk with him about the issue and search for some solution u can try. I'm a virgin and i know that, you don't have an excuse, now go get him, get naked and start googling for "ways to make sex last longer"

Ginkgo and L-arginine are nutritional supplements that are safe to take together (at a reasonable dose, as with anything, taking too much could be harmful). Both are commonly used for improving circulation which may therefore be also beneficial for erectile dysfunction (ED) (especially if circulation is a cause). However, the notion that these supplements may make you last longer in bed is not true. I am not aware of any evidence of this effect. There are exercises you can perform that can help in this, but nutritional supplements are likely not effective. Kegal exercises can help you control ejaculation for longer sex. See here for more info: http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/kegelsmen.htm Arginine is a common and natural amino acid. It is commonly used for circulatory problems becasue it is an NO (Nitric Oxide) precursor. NO causes relaxation and dilation of your blood vessels allowing blood to flow. The theory is that by taking arginine, you can potentially increase the amount of NO in the blood, and therefore improve circulation. Ginkgo biloba tree leaf extract has been used therapeutically in China for millennia. The active ingredients of Ginkgo biloba extracts contain many different substances but most of them fall into two main categories: Terpenoid lactones and Flavonoids. Ginkgo is most commonly used to help memory and mental function (and research reveals this effect may be due to increased circulation in the brain.) In terms of erectile dysfunction, there may be a benefit to using both arginine and ginkgo (because of the circulatory benefits). See the following sites for specific research in regards to the effect of arginine and ginkgo for ED: http://www.erectiledysfunctioncentral.org/?s=arginine http://www.erectiledysfunctioncentral.org/?s=ginkgo Dosage is also a key factor. One study with a low dose showed no effect with ED (http://www.erectiledysfunctioncentral.org/erectile-dysfunction-research/effect-of-oral-administration-of-high-dose-nitric-oxide-donor-l-arginine-in-men-with-organic-erectile-dysfunction-results-of-a-double-blind-randomized-placebo-controlled-study/) and another study with high dose revealed some benefit for ED (http://www.erectiledysfunctioncentral.org/erectile-dysfunction-research/effectiveness-of-oral-l-arginine-in-first-line-treatment-of-erectile-dysfunction-in-a-controlled-crossover-study/) It would be advisable to seek professional advise from an expert in nutritional supplements (i.e. Naturopathic Doctor or MD with training in nutrition). Here is another good article on nutrional supplementation (including arginine and ginkgo): http://www.erectiledysfunctioncentral.org/erectile-dysfunction-research/nutrients-and-botanicals-for-erectile-dysfunction-examining-the-evidence-2/ (click on the yellow "alternative medicine review" button for the full article)

First off your bf needs to stop being a selfish bastard and take care of you first. Maybe you can show him how you finish yourself and he can get you all worked up before he even starts gettin his. I bet if you start holding out he will go out of his way to make sure you get yours first. sometimes men take women for granted.....remind him that it should be pleasurable for BOTH not just him